#the biggest issue is that i can't eat gluten so i can't get something from the bakery for Saturday morning breakfast

[riverofrainbows]

I can add on my own workplace experience here. I wanted to add a positive story even though it's a bit different situation because i use binary pronouns, but I started working there 2 days after starting t (and didn't pass that much before it) so passing was not exactly it, and i still don't all the time.

I was necessarily out to my boss because she needed to handle the paperwork, and she was super relaxed and supportive and did not make any fuss about it. I work with a couple of younger people but otherwise only people over 50, usually towards 60+.

The younger people know that I'm trans because i told them (because i am terrible at lying and hiding, i don't like it, and we were swapping anecdotes). Some of the older people might know, but i try not to tell them.

They all never misgendered me, and especially the older colleagues are so funny because they get so confused whenever customers reference me as "the young lady i talked to on the phone/just earlier when i was here". They cannot seem to figure out who the customers mean. It makes me giddy every time lol.

I started a new remote job last week, and I'm the only genderqueer person at the company (and the first person who uses neo pronouns that anyone on my team has ever met, apparently).

So far:

Manager carefully wrote down spelling and pronunciation of my pronouns and told everyone on the team to respect them.

Coworker apologized privately for misgendering me (I hadn't told her yet) and said she will practice.

Guy on another team valiantly tried to use my pronouns and ended up saying something like zirzs-zhizz (I DM'd him and thanked him for trying and linked him to a practice site).

Teammate told me he has written out my pronouns and how to use them in a sentence and literally taped it to his monitor so he can practice.

Teammate also referred to me as compañere after I linked to a comic about gender-neutral endings in Spanish (whole team except me + 1 other person speaks Spanish as first language and they held all meetings in Spanish before the two of us started).

I am so stoked that people are actually trying. 💜🤍💚